What do you miss right now? May 2020


My friend told me she feels guilty about her sadness at missing her oldest son’s high school graduation when so many people have lost their lives to Corona virus.

I told her there is nothing to feel guilty about. There is no yardstick for grief. Yes, it can always be worse, yet why don’t we feel better when someone says this?

We are all experiencing loss right now of every magnitude.

We have lost our physical communities.

We have lost trust in our leaders.

We have lost milestone celebrations.

We have lost the freedom to travel freely.

We have lost the chance to attend that special concert.

We have lost our spot on the beach.

We have lost the ability to kiss our grandchildren.

Gig & Rivkah Pesach 2016

And much more.

Some losses caused by the Covid-19 pandemic aren’t apparent at first. They hit us as our child’s birthday approaches.  The hit us as we flip the calendar: Cape Cod trip. 

These losses may seem small but they add up. They loom large in our heart.

Before the pandemic, I tried keeping a gratitude journal as espoused by so many self-help gurus. My entries tended toward big things: family, friends, health, work, and home. It was hard to think of the small things.

That is, until they are gone.

Here’s one thing I missed early on: my morning writing space at the library.  This sunny glass room with a view. Free to use—just sign up. 

LIbrary Spot

Why didn’t this appear in my gratitude journal? 

Because I couldn’t fathom losing it.  

I have a good imagination. Over-active sometimes.  I write fiction, after all.  Yet, I never imagined that in March 2020 a world-wide pandemic would close my special writing space in Boston.

Often, we don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone. Trite but true.

I am confident that I’ll have this writing space back in the near future.

But you only get one high school graduation.


Acknowledge your losses. Grieve them, no matter how small. Find comfort. Think of something to look forward to. Make a list of what you still have.

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And remember, it’s okay to miss the small stuff.  Manicures and malls. Coffee shops and handshakes. Smiles from strangers. 

So go ahead, tell me what you miss, big and small. 

No yardsticks here.

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Author: EvelynKrieger

I'm a people watcher and word crafter, author of fiction and creative nonfiction. I also blog on living the creative life during hard times. When not writing, I work as a private educational consultant. Special interests: dance, the moon, astronauts, beaches, poetry.

24 thoughts on “What do you miss right now? May 2020”

  1. Thank you for this. I miss my solitude on the trails. So many people are out there now, which is good, I know. I still love it best when I’m often the only one out there with the flora and fauna.

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    1. It’s interesting that you miss solitude! I think people are going to be feeling more of this when they are outdoors. My little corner of the world is getting crowded. Thanks for stopping by Tracy. Be well.

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  2. As usual beautifully written and so accurately sums up so many of our current experiences. Thank you Evelyn for giving us permission to feel- be it through grief or celebration Thank you for calling our attention to the details that truly matter but can easily get overlooked like a certain library window view. It’s okay to miss things, but don’t miss out reading this! ❤️

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  3. Missing not having to rely on screens for things like yoga and exercise classes. It’s just not the same. I know I can do it on my own, but everything is so much better when done together. 💗

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  4. Aw, I feel you so much, Evelyn. I miss my working space too — in this specific cafe nearby. Of course, it was shut down due to the pandemic. It was hard because it was my breathing space. Now, I try hard to find the same comfort I had in that cafe.

    Hope wil eventually turn better. Have a great week!


    1. Thanks, Camille. Now that the weather has turned summer-like in Boston, I’m writing in my backyard. Hoping that public libraries may be considered “essential” at some point soon.


  5. I’m so glad that you wrote this – I’ve been thinking a lot about missing things, and wondering why my reaction is different. Perhaps I’m adaptable, or maybe I really do live in the moment. (I like to say I do, although I really don’t know what that means). I should be missing going to the ballet, the ballpark, being in the dance studio, taking the train, Pilates & Zumba classes, having lunch at Angel’s, going to Arizona. But rather than “I miss ballet so much! I can’t wait to get back to class!” instead, I think of those things as something I “used to” do. You know, ages ago. Back in the day. Before the world changed.


    1. Your reaction is very interesting, Meg, and, yes, somewhat surprising. I sense some numbness here, almost like actually missing the event/activity might be too painful. On the other hand, you may be more adaptable, as you say, or you have accepted the changes for now. Either way, I’m glad you’re okay. By the way, I am doing the online barre classes and enjoying it. For the recorded ones, you can change the speed!


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